Help Bridge the Gap

On one of my last days on the ropes course this season, there was a group of kids who were really challenged to work together. Their first task was to come up with a team name. Some students in the group built walls instead of bridges with their classmates, digging their feet into the ground and not opening their ears to hear what their classmates were saying.

After giving them time to try and work it out on their own, I found myself saying to them, “you may not always agree, but try to find a common thread so you can work together towards your goal.”

After the words came out of my mouth I realized how these kids were showing on a small scale what the world is looking like more and more these days; people closing their ears to listen to those who think differently than them and the unwillingness to seek the common thread which will help us work together.

With the week ahead, I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.™

May we choose to be the ones who listen to others, who are willing to help bridge the gap and choose to find the common thread we have with others, even if we aren’t in full agreement with them on everything.

Our kids are watching.

May we teach them what it looks like to be able to listen to those who have different views, respectfully disagree with others, and how to be a bridge that helps close the gap so we can come together with others, and work towards a common goal.

With love and hope,

Shawn

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‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ - Matthew 22:39

Gratitude For Each Season

This morning I looked out back and saw the bare trees. It was beautiful to see the sun peaking through them. I had a moment of appreciation for all those moments this fall I’ve paused to look at the beautiful changing scenery and that I didn’t just wake up to the bare trees this morning.

The reality is, I haven’t always noticed the autum leaves changing. I often would look up one day, see the bare trees and think, “I didn’t even notice the leaves changing, and now they’re gone.” Life can be so busy and rushed, and I can even be distracted by my own thoughts, that I forget to look up and appreciate what is around me. And this isn’t just true about the scenery.

Life has taught me how precious our time here is. It’s an imperfect practice but I am prayerful that I remember to notice the gifts God has surrounded me with everyday, from the people beside me to the scenery around me.

If you too have felt like seasons, in the year or in life, are passing you by, I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.™

May we take a moment to be present where we our feet are. May we look at the scenery around us, and take a look at the people who are beside us; whether we are at home, at work, or wherever we are. May we pray that with God’s help, we can go slower, if not in body, in mind so we are able to grow in our ability to be present with who we are with, and where we are. So when the seasons change, we don’t look back in regret, but instead look back with gratitude for being able to be present in that season.

With love and hope,

Shawn

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“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven…” - Ecclesiastes 3:1

Trust Where God Leads

On the way home from soccer tonight, Matt and I were driving along a winding road in town. It was getting dark and this winding road narrows a couple times over two small bridges. Even when I go over the bridges in the daytime with another car, I am cautious. So when I went over the bridges at dusk tonight, I was extra cautious as I passed a car coming from the other direction.

As I continued along I thought of Matt in the backseat. He was just chilling out, with no concern of the twists and turns or narrowing of the road. I loved the thought of how he rests while being driven around. He is able to rest because he trusts whoever is driving will get him where they are going.

This thought made me pause and think of God. In life He is the driver and we are the passengers. Rather than always trusting and resting where God is taking me, I am often the backseat driver with my eyes on the road trying to direct God, like I know better.

If you can relate, I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.™

May we own our desire for control yet in the next breathe exhale and give control back to God. His thoughts are higher than our thoughts and His ways higher than ours ways. In this ride of life, may we follow Matt’s example, and trust where God is taking us and that He will help guide us through the twists and turns along the way, so we too can have rest for our souls.

With love and hope,

Shawn

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"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the LORD. As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts.” - Isaiah 55:8-9

A New Adventure

Kate is no longer only a passenger, she got her license today!

…and I am having a mom moment.

From the day our kids are born, we are driving them everywhere they need to go. The time spent with the kids in the car starts with singing the ABC’s and 123’s. Some days they are content as we ride along and other days we wish the crying would just stop and they’d fall asleep. We drive them them to and from the library, play dates, pre-school and more.

Then they get bigger and though the places we take them may change, our kids are our constant companions for the ride. Yes, sometimes our kids are loud and they often leave a mess. Yet there’s a day when we realize that the sound of their voices is music to our soul, and we’ll miss it when we don’t get to hear it.

Once they are big enough they graduate to sit beside us rather than behind us. Some of them share their hearts with us on those drives, others sit quietly beside us and most of them prefer to be the djs on those drives.

We drive them to and from each activity, sometimes it’s early in the morning, other times it’s late at night. And many of the drives with them are in those hours in between. Some days, and seasons, it feels like driving them from place to place will never end.

And then a day like today happens.

We find ourselves jumping up and down with joy for them as they get their license. Then when reality sets in, as it is for me right now, and the flashbacks to all those sweet moments in the car flash through our head, we will see clearly how precious all those moments were with them behind us, and beside us, in the car.

I know we will still get sweet moments together, yet the truth that’s hitting me today is how those moments in the car will grow fewer in number over time.

Then I look up.

I see the joy in my girl’s face. I witness her wings growing a little bigger and wider, as they are meant to.

I find myself pausing to thank God for what was, for what is, and for what is to come.

To Kate, and all the other kids growing in their independence, , make wise choices, take care of yourself and others out there, and know there are circles of people who care about you wrapping you in love and prayer daily.

Now is your time to go and explore. Know God is with you wherever you go.

We can’t wait to hear your stories when you get home

Be strong and courageous do not fear or be dismayed for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. - Joshua 1:9

Look Up Child

One day I was walking on a trail with my youngest, Matt, and a couple of my friends and their kids. As we walked along, Matt and I were pushing our feet through the abundance of leaves that had fallen to the ground. He and I were talking about how we didn’t like the withering leaves on the ground. We preferred them when they were vibrant on the trees above. We carried on the conversation for a couple of minutes with our heads down as our feet continued to rustle their way through the crunchy, dead leaves.

In a break in our conversation I heard one of my friends say in amazement, “look at what we’d miss if we forgot to look up!”

My friend’s words caught my attention as I realized I had been walking with my head down focused on the dead leaves on the ground. I had forgotten to look up.

What had we been missing?

When I looked up, what I saw amazed me.

The sky was a beautiful blue. The magnificent sunlight was breaking through the towering trees, illuminating all below. The light enhanced the leaves array of colors. Everything above was bright, brilliant and beautiful. What a difference to what Matt and I had been focused on.

When we continued walking this moment made me reflect on how in my life I can often be “looking down,” focused on the struggle in front of me. Whether it be a mundane struggle like getting laundry done, a parenting struggle, or a life struggle I’ve had to walk through such as anxiety, depression or cancer, I find I easily can fixate on the struggle, like Matt and I were focusing on the dead leaves.

Yet that isn’t what God wants for me, or for you. He doesn’t want our eyes to be focused on our struggles. He wants our eyes to be fixed on Him, His light, His Word and His Truth. Doing this doesn’t mean we won’t have struggles but if we are looking to Him, then we have lifted our eyes from the struggles to where our help comes from; God.

When my thoughts remain focused on a struggle, I can find myself growing heavy hearted. Yet when I choose to lift my eyes from the struggle and instead choose to look to God, it’s like His wisdom and Truth are the sunlight breaking through the trees shining a light on my heart and mind.

I share this with you today because I know I am not the only one who has struggles. If you too find that your thoughts, and conversations, can fixate on your struggles and you forget to look up from them, like I did the leaves on the ground, I invite you to join me to...

pause. breathe. pray.™

May we remember to look up. To look to God who will help us through the day, no matter the struggle. May we recognize that when we focus too much on our struggles, we may miss out on the beauty God has for us in this day. Every day, may we purposefully, and physically, turn our heads and our eyes up towards God to remember He is with us and wants to help us. He is the light that will shine into the darkness of our struggles. He is the love that lightens the heavy and will help us experience the fullness of the day, even in the midst of our struggles. He is the one who can take a moment on a walk with my son to help me see more clearly, and I know He can do the same for you too.

With love and hope,

Shawn

I lift up my eyes to the mountains— where does my help come from?
My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.
He will not let your foot slip— he who watches over you will not slumber;
indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.
The LORD watches over you— the LORD is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night.
The LORD will keep you from all harm— he will watch over your life;
the LORD will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore. - Psalm 121

Amazing Grace

While working on the ropes course with another group of kids recently we were circling up to do the next activity. A bunch of kids were side by side and another kid was trying to get into the circle. I watched as the kids in the circle were not letting the other kid in. After giving them space to do it on their own, I said, “extend some grace and make room for him to join us.”

As the kids made room for the boy, the kid to my right looked at me, and with sincerity asked, “what is grace?”

It was a beautiful moment to share with this boy how grace is extending favor, or kindness, to someone not because they deserve it, but simple because we get to. He looked and me and simply said, “okay.”

I share this with you today to invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.™

May we remember, and give thanks for, the amazing grace God extends to us daily. Also, may we remember we have the opportunity to extend grace to others throughout our days to shine a light of God’s love into other’s hearts, while filling our own in the process. And I hope you’ll join me in praying that this brief conversation with this boy is a seed planted in his heart and that he experiences God’s amazing grace, and shares that gift of grace with others too.

With love and hope,

Shawn

I once was lost, but now I'm found, Was blind but now I see - Amazing Grace

The Other Side of Fear

The other day I was helping out at a ropes course. There was a girl who wanted to do the high elements but was also terrified to do it. We encourage the kids that each challenge is a choice. As this girl stood at the bottom of the cargo net to climb up to the high elements I reminded her she could go now, later or not at all, the choice was hers. With tears in her eyes she started climbing. She climbed and climbed and climbed. By the time she got to the top she was in tears, hesitant to climb onto the platform. She paused for a while but eventually got onto the platform where she stood shaking. The instructor beside her once again offered her options, to come down or to do the high elements. She didn’t decide right away but stayed up there watching others do the high elements. In time, she did choose to do the high elements on the course. I couldn’t help but get choked up as I watched this girl conquer fear.

When she came down I smile and asked her, “how does it feel to be on the other side of fear?” She smiled and laughed saying, “great!” Then she floated away with her friends, light like a feather with all the burden of fear having been released.

I share this story with you because the reality is, we are all that girl in some way. Maybe our fear isn’t a climb up a cargo net to high elements. Whatever the fear is that we are staring, I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.

May we not allow fear to rule our hearts. May we trust that God is with us as we step towards what we fear and will give us the strength and courage we need to move through it and forwards. When we get to the other side of the fear, no matter how long that takes, I pray we too are transformed and feeling lighter, just as that courageous girl did the other day on the ropes course.

With love and hope,

Shawn

Do strong and courageous, do not fear or be dismayed for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go - Joshua 1:9

And let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts - Colossians 3:15

Stop Trying to Keep Up

I am not great at keeping up with trends on the internet, laundry, emails, texts, and many other things in life. And the truth be told, even on our family hikes I don’t always keep up with these three. Yet I don’t believe we are meant to try and keep up in life. It’s like chasing the wind; something you can never fully grasp. Instead of trying to keep up with everything and everyone, maybe we are meant to let go of that mentality, and instead choose to be present where our feet are.

If you too have felt like you aren’t keeping up in life in some way, I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.

May we stop trying to keep up with the unrealistic expectations we put on ourselves, or others put on us. Instead may we practice being present where are feet are, step by step throughout our day. For when we are able to put this truth into practice, we may find we stop chasing the wind and instead start experiencing life.

With love and hope,

Shawn

Better one handful with tranquility than two handfuls chasing the wind. - Ecclesiastes 4:6

Listen to One Another

I always find crosses in nature but a friend of mine always finds the hearts. Recently I went to cut down this hydrangea from our front yard, and from this angle, it looked like a heart.

What I loved about this moment is that I was reminded that hearing one another matters. Being able to hear someone else’s story can open our eyes, ears and minds, to see, hear and think from a different perspective. And different doesn’t have to mean wrong or bad. Instead it is simply considering viewing things from a new angle that we are used to seeing things from.

I share this today as a reminder to myself, and for you in case you need it too, that we take the time to…

pause. breathe. pray.™

May we be quick to listen to others, and slow to speak. May we remember there is something we can learn from everyone. In this world that has amplified the importance of being heard, over listening to one another, I encourage us to enter each day with ears to listen. When we choose to hear one another, even though it may not completely change our perspective and what we see, it may open our eyes, ears and minds in ways we hadn’t seen before, like when I saw this heart in nature.

With love and hope,

Shawn

Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to anger - James 1:19

Pour In Before You Pour Out

Before we pour into others, it’s important we make the time to fill ourselves up.

If you struggle with this at times as I do, I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.

May we make the time to fill up on God’s truth, love and wisdom each day. For when we do, it doesn’t just help us, but it benefits those around us too.

With love and hope,

Shawn

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For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love. - Romans 5:5