live out love

Psalm 139:14

Last week Kate and I went to a local home that had each room decorated by different designers in the area. It was beautiful to walk through and see the different expressions and styles of the various designers.

Stepping into each room and seeing each new design made me think of each person we meet in life.

Each person has their own unique gifts, skills and beauty they bring to the world.

I just wanted to share this today as a reminder that you are beautifully and wonderfully made, you add value and beauty to the spaces you go each day.

May we not hide who we are, pretend to be someone we aren’t or try to be like someone else.

Instead let’s…

pause. breathe. pray.

Remember that God made each of us so uniquely with purpose. Not only that, He designed us to live in community to value each other’s strengths and support one another’s weakness. When we are ourselves, and we work together, we can create beautiful homes and communities, as these designers did in this beautiful home.

With love and hope,
Shawn

I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made -Psalm 139:14

Do not neglect the gift that is in you - 1 Timothy 4:14

1 Corinthians 12:12-27

Psalm 23:2-3

Last night while Matt was at soccer, Stephen and I took a walk. On the edge of the fields there is a pond and as we walked by this spot, it made me pause.

The clarity in the water doesn’t happen when the water is in motion. The clarity comes when the water grows still. And in that stillness it is able to reflect the beauty around it.

Isn’t the same true with us, and our minds?

If you’re mind can be muddled like mine at times, I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.

May we take time to be still, even if not in our bodies, in our minds. In that stillness may we be prayerful when it becomes uncomfortable to not escape it. Instead may we invite God in to help us calm our muddled thoughts so that we can grow in clarity and peace.

And when we are in this still, calm place, may we pray to see, and reflect, the beauty that is around us, like the still water did last night.

With love and hope,
Shawn

Be still and know that I am God - Psalm 46:10

He leads me beside still water, He restores my soul - Psalm 23:2-3

Isaiah 43:18-19

One night recently I was looking back at pictures of Gavin over the past seventeen years to make something for him. It was hard for me to process where time had gone. My little boy was now this young man soon heading off on his own. In my prayer time the next morning, there was a verse in my devotional that was divine timing. It read:

“do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!”
- Isaiah 43:18-19

This verse in Isaiah was exactly what I needed to read.

It is okay to look back yet God doesn’t want us to stay and dwell there. Instead, He wants us to be present and trust He is doing something new. And as someone who is sentimental and can get caught up in the memories of the past, this verse gave me a new view of Gavin’s graduation and the next few months before he heads off to college. God wants me to enjoy the moments and the time with Gavin, not in a “hold on tight and never let go way.” He wants me to be present and trust He is “doing something new” for Gavin, and for our family. “Something new” doesn’t mean bad or wrong, just different.

I share this with you today in case you are in a season of change as well. I invite you to join me to...

pause. breathe. pray.

May we look back but not dwell in the past. Instead, may we take God’s Word and trust that He is doing something new. And with that Truth, may we find ourselves settling into the present moment and look ahead with joyful anticipation of what is to come, for each of us, including Gavin. And when the waves of emotion come, may we allow ourselves to experience them, and then return back to this verse, as much as we need to, as a truth to help us through.

With love and hope,
Shawn

Use Time Wisely

Sunday we were all together. We were outside. We went slow. We laughed a lot. We sat around our fire pit. Matt played his guitar. We ate and chilled out together. These four gave me the most precious gift for Mother’s Day, their time.

On Monday life was back to normal, all of us going our separate ways. The time together on Sunday was fuel in my soul. Yet the reality is, moments like Sunday aren’t the standard anymore like it once was. And as much as I love those moments, they aren’t what I can rely on for my fuel, as I admittedly have for a long time.

I have been praying how to use the margin of time that is growing in my life. I don’t have an answer to what that is yet. Instead of filling all the gaps, I am finding myself sitting in some of them.

It is uncomfortable.

Yet life has taught me, sometimes it is in the uncomfortable spaces where we grow the most.

So for now, I am giving thanks for the sweet moments like Sunday with my family, and being prayerful to use the growing margin wisely.

I share this with you today in case you are in a similar place. I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.

The gift of time together is precious. Let’s treasure it when we get it and absorb the love shared. May we remember it’s okay to be in this uncomfortable place. Let’s pray for God’s love to fuel us and help us use the growing margin of time wisely.

With love and hope,
Shawn

Teach me to number my days so that I may gain a heart of wisdom.
-Psalm90:12

Happy Mother's Day - A Lesson from My Mom

I hope all you Moms had a blessed Mother’s Day!💕🙏💐

As I was thinking about my Mom, the greatest lesson she has taught me in life are five simple words she would say while I was growing up. Living in an affluent town, we may have not had, or did, all the things other people did but my Mom always would say, “We are rich in love.”

And “rich in love” we were, and are!

These three words are the perfect reflection of my mom’s heart. She loves to love others, from our family to her students (when she taught), to her friends and her neighbors. If there is a need she always wants to lend a hand. She is rich in love - and - she is love in action.

She is patient.
She is kind.
She does not envy.
She is humble.
She is slow to anger.
She honors others.
She is not self-seeking.
She is not easily angered.
She doesn’t keep record of wrongs.
She rejoices with the God’s truth.
She protects.
She trusts.
She hopes.
She perseveres.
( based on 1 Corinthians 13:4-7)

She is rich in love.

I share all of this with you today to invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.

May we give thanks for our Moms, or the mother figures, in our lives. May we pray to always remember the wise lessons they teach us. And may we be rich in love, through our words and actions, so that others will experience God’s love through us, as I do through my Mom.

With gratitude and love,
Shawn

Senior Mom Moment

Last night I allowed myself to cry. I didn’t realize how badly I needed that release. Life is changing, again. Kate and Gavin will be at college in the fall, and Matt will be the solo child at home. I am realizing this transitional time is something I need to grieve. I know the word grieve may seem like a lot but it’s real for me. I truly treasure the beautiful seasons of life with my family and I’ve recognized that it isn’t easy for me to let go and move on to the new seasons as easily as others do, or appear to. I eventually do, and will, yet reflecting on the gift of all these years being a stay at home Mom with Kate, Gavin and Matt is something I will forever treasure.

I know the next season will have its own beauty, as every season does. Yet the reality is, moving on is not a light switch I can just flip to the next season. I need to gradually make my way into the new season. And if at times that requires having a good cry, so be it.

I share this today for anyone else who is in a transitional season. I invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.

May we be willing to sit with ourselves and process our emotions as we transition seasons. It’s okay to not be okay at times. Yet may we always remember that this too shall pass, and may we trust that the next season will have a new kind of beauty, and may we give thanks for being here to send them off and watch them step into their future selves.

With love and hope,
Shawn

"I don’t always feel it, but that’s when I need it the most"

“I don’t always feel it, but that’s when I need it the most.” - Brandon Lake, Hard Fought Hallelujah

These words couldn’t be more true.

Don’t you often find the thing you need to do, that will bless you, or others, is often the thing you find yourself most resistance to?

For me, I have two things I am working on and the reality is, this week I have yet to feel like working on either of them. Yet I continue to sludge through the mud to work towards completing them.

Why?

Because my future self will thank me for it, and more importantly, I know it will please God that I do these because they benefit other people.

I share this with you today to invite you to join me to…

pause. breathe. pray.

May we remember that our feelings can mislead us, yet truth will lead us well. May we pray to know the difference so that we gain clarity about is ours to do, or not do.

And for all who are trudging through the mud when you don’t feel like it because you know it’s the wise choice, know I see you, and get you. May we choose to patiently persevere towards what we need to do and trust the feelings will come, even if it’s when all is said and done.

With love and hope,
Shawn